How to Win Your “Unsaved” Loved Ones

How to Win Your “Unsaved” Loved Ones

We all unfortunately have a number of “unsaved” family members and friends. And I imagine we all worry about what will ever happen to them, if they do not somehow come to discover the Grace of God. 

But beyond being worried and concerned about their eternal destiny, we all labor tirelessly to try and get them to the point of becoming “Saved.”

The hope of seeing a Lost loved one Saved often seems to be a labor of love, in vain! Statistics on salvation show that the vast majority of people that become “Saved” do so before the age of 12! That fact can be very disturbing if you are trying your best to see your loved ones Saved before it is everlastingly too late!

This begs the question: “What can we do to be more hopeful that our loved ones will be Saved?”

Below I offer several suggestions to help you in your Christian endeavor to improve the chances of seeing your Lost family or friends becoming Saved!

Point #1 Pray unceasingly for God to quicken the Holy Spirit to confront and ultimately to convict your lost sheep of their sins! Mention their names before God daily! (Romans 1:9, II Timothy 1:3, I Timothy 2:1)

Point #2 Practice what you pray and preach! (I Peter 3:12 For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.) The Lords ears are open to the prayers of the righteous and will empower his agencies to answer their prayers! (James 5:16 The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.)

Point #3 Acknowledge the fact that it is not your job to convict people of sin, but is solely the job of the Holy Spirit! (John 6:44 No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him:)

Point #4 When praying, learn how to pray the way James expressed; “effectually.” This might involve quoting the many pledges that God has promised in his Word. For instance, God assured us that He is love! Ask him to shower his love towards whomever you are praying for.

Point #5 Resist the human temptation to try to rush a person towards a decision on faith. In so doing, you risk antagonizing a person before the Holy Spirit has prepared the way!

Point #6 You must realize that the Decision about Salvation is a personal one! Such a decision can only be made by each person independently and freely! You cannot make such a decision for your loved one!

Point #7 Learn from the Wisdom of the Lord! Look for “opportune” occasions to allow the Holy Spirit to use your talents, insights and relationship to promote the Spirit of Leading! (Proverbs 1:5, 11:30, 16:23, Matthew 10:16)

Point #8 Be wise to the gimmicks of Satan and his quest to “keep men blinded” to the truth! (II Corinthians 4:4) Therefore plant the Seeds of Truth and tend to them! The spirit of Truth Will guide the Lost to salvation! 

Point #9 Ask God to send and empower agents of help! This may involve people and his ministering spirits! (Romans 15:16, II Cor. 8:4)

Point #10 Get to “know” the person that you are praying for. Study them, their interests, their habits, their passions. The better you can understand what makes them “tick” the better you will be able to avail yourself to the Holy Spirit for it to perform its function.

Point #11 Don’t be afraid to befriend them and even to engage their friends. Jesus was accused of eating and drinking with sinners! 

Proverbs 18:19 A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city:

Finally; remember these things foremost:

The Lord himself desires that all the Lost come to accept his salvation! In fact, the Lord desires for your Lost loved ones to be Saved far more than you do! However, You can be an invaluable tool in that Divine mission! 

Secondly, the Lord is the one who paid the price for the Lost to become Saved! In our zeal and hopes to see someone Saved, we must submit to the Lords guidance and to his Wisdom and to his Patience! 

II Peter 3;9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.

Focus on the Bible

January 16, 2021

by: Darrell G. Young